Did you know that, as we age, friendships are even more important to our health and happiness than family relationships, according to a Michigan State study?
If you think about it, it makes sense. When we get older, we may be living far away from family members, some may have died, and some, sadly, may have even become estranged. Friends become a greater part of our support systems and daily lives.
While there are friends for many reasons and seasons, here are five types of friends that every 50+ woman needs:
- Hobby/Specific Interest Pal
Sometimes we get in a rut. We enjoy certain activities, but we do them by ourselves. I think we can all agree: it might take a little bit more work to coordinate, but it’s much more fun doing things we enjoy with a friend! There are other benefits, too. Here are some examples:
● Exercise: Getting a workout buddy or gym friend makes the time you spend together go faster, and will help keep you motivated.
● Volunteering: Pitching in with a friend to help walk animals at an animal shelter, wrapping gifts, or doing outreach makes the experience stronger and more meaningful.
● Creating together: Whether it’s writing, painting, or cooking, making things with a friend helps you learn new techniques and gain valuable insights and feedback into the creative process.
Plus, you know how your significant other/family member/most friends zone out when you start talking about your quilting class or your amazing yoga teacher? That never happens with your hobby/specific interest pal. She is always willing to talk about it, which is a gift for both of you!
- I’m-Up-for-Anything Gal
Want to try night paddle boarding? A hookah bar? Take an impromptu road trip? This friend usually answers, “Yes, please!” She’s the one who doesn’t sneer when you want to try goat yoga and often comes up with her own unique and wacky ideas (and invites you to join her).
- Business Buddy
This is someone you work with, is in a similar work situation (work at home, business owner, etc.), or someone you share business interests with. Your Business Buddy “gets” you business-wise, while many other types of friends (and family) simply can’t. When you need to vent about business, get feedback, or brainstorm an idea, she is there for you.
What if you’re retired? Just because you’re retired, it doesn’t mean that you have no interest in the world of work. In fact, you probably have a great deal of wisdom to share, and a lot to discuss.
- Neighborhood Friend
Location, location, location. It’s not just important for real estate.
Whether you live in an apartment, a house, or any other place, it’s really helpful to have a neighbor who is also a friend. When you run out of eggs in the middle of a recipe, this is the friend you call. If your daughter forgot her key and no one is home, your neighbor friend has your spare. If you have a hankering to go out to lunch or dinner last minute, this person might be available. Your neighbor friend may be able to give you a ride to the airport, invite you over for a meal, or send one over when you’re sick.
Of course, you also reciprocate in the same or other ways.
- BFF
She will keep your secrets. She is available for a call at any time, day or night. She will be there to listen and offer comfort. She always has your back.
How to identify her: You might have already found her. If so, lucky you! If you’re not sure, go through your contacts (literally – on your phone, social media, etc.) and think through the answers to these questions:
● Who makes you feel better after spending time with her?
● Who really listens to you, and who do you really want to listen to?
● Who uplifts and encourages you?
● Who shares similar values, goals, and interests?
● Who motivates you to be a better person?
Once you’ve determined who would make a great BFF, you need to put in some work. If your BFF is local, this may be finding a way to regularly do something together (such as exercise, a book club, girls’ night out). You also might need to start elevating your conversations. Instead of just talking about great Netflix shows or excellent restaurants (although those are fun too), consider asking for advice on a challenge you’re dealing with or input on a business idea.
If your potential BFF is far away, make a point to have regular conversations, texts, and occasional in-person get-togethers. And if you’re great at sending cards through the mail, those are always a fun treat for a friend!
How important are friends to you in your over 50 journey? Do you have these types of friends? What other types of friends do you have?